Fudanshi and how I adore them in a platonic way.
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sammichI feel like Fujoshi get kind of a bad rep. They're seen as "IDOLIZING" or sexualizing gay relationships in a fetishized way. And while I believe it to be true in a way, I question that generalization. At least toward myself.
When I was in school my best friend was a gay guy. Well, specifically he identified as bisexual. Much of his romantic and sexual encounters were with men. I had always wanted a best friend in general and the two of us were supportive of each other to the point that we were friends even when we graduated out of high school. We had our own little in-jokes and cared about each other as friends do. I was more into anime and manga. He wasn't, but I told him how there was a genre of manga that was mostly gay relationships and he seemed interested. At the time this was when there wasn't a lot of manga/anime in the west so I couldn't show him a lot. Anyway, it was cool that he liked me despite my weird nerdy behavior. In the end we grew apart because he would use drugs and would steal and basically I couldn't deal with that kind of thing. He started caring more about himself and his habits and less about me in general. So I stopped talking to him.
This doesn't have anything really to do with fudanshi, but I guess I'll always hold a special fondness for men who are gay specifically because one was there for me when my own brother would be an asshole to me.
I grew into being a fujoshi and being into BL and all that, but mostly when I see fudanshi I feel like they're allies and like fellow fans. Mostly I'm happy for them.
There's a couple of Vtubers in NijiEN who are fudanshi and two that play at being boyfriends. (I don't know if they really are, but they seem to be close) and I'm mostly happy for them and excited to get danmei, BL, etc discussions from a guys perspective. Sensitive and kind-hearted people who are into romance are so cool and I adore them!!! I don't know if this thinking is the bad thing that people hate? I don't know if I say the wrong things or am being problematic. I just know that I'm happy to find more fans of things I like in general.
I am so happy that there are English Vtubers like Uki Violeta and Fulgur Ovid to be the openly gay power couple of Nijisanji EN. It's adorable and I can only wish the best for whatever they do.
When I was in school my best friend was a gay guy. Well, specifically he identified as bisexual. Much of his romantic and sexual encounters were with men. I had always wanted a best friend in general and the two of us were supportive of each other to the point that we were friends even when we graduated out of high school. We had our own little in-jokes and cared about each other as friends do. I was more into anime and manga. He wasn't, but I told him how there was a genre of manga that was mostly gay relationships and he seemed interested. At the time this was when there wasn't a lot of manga/anime in the west so I couldn't show him a lot. Anyway, it was cool that he liked me despite my weird nerdy behavior. In the end we grew apart because he would use drugs and would steal and basically I couldn't deal with that kind of thing. He started caring more about himself and his habits and less about me in general. So I stopped talking to him.
This doesn't have anything really to do with fudanshi, but I guess I'll always hold a special fondness for men who are gay specifically because one was there for me when my own brother would be an asshole to me.
I grew into being a fujoshi and being into BL and all that, but mostly when I see fudanshi I feel like they're allies and like fellow fans. Mostly I'm happy for them.
There's a couple of Vtubers in NijiEN who are fudanshi and two that play at being boyfriends. (I don't know if they really are, but they seem to be close) and I'm mostly happy for them and excited to get danmei, BL, etc discussions from a guys perspective. Sensitive and kind-hearted people who are into romance are so cool and I adore them!!! I don't know if this thinking is the bad thing that people hate? I don't know if I say the wrong things or am being problematic. I just know that I'm happy to find more fans of things I like in general.
I am so happy that there are English Vtubers like Uki Violeta and Fulgur Ovid to be the openly gay power couple of Nijisanji EN. It's adorable and I can only wish the best for whatever they do.
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Date: Tuesday, March 29th, 2022 04:14 am (UTC)I want gay relationships to be seen as normal as het ones. People don't automatically say you're fetishizing het relationships if you read romance about straight characters. It seems like a weird criticism. Unless there's like some really weird aspect to it that's obviously a fetish like FEET or smth idk lol
I know for me, like my introduction to "yaoi" was Gravitation and I just wasn't into it because the relationship was so bad imo (maybe it changed, I didn't continue past the first couple eps). And then it was people doing rival shipping, which I just didn't get. But once I saw characters who really supported each other or balanced each other out and seemed like they would be GOOD in a relationship, I started to understand BL more, because the dynamics were good. And I think there's a lot of BL that is doing that. They are trying to establish an interesting relationship between interesting characters. It's just another romance story.
Blake and Luke are my first BL ship lol
Yeah there's some stuff in BL that's obviously more fetishy, but that exists in het materials too, so idk, again just a weird criticism to jump to imo
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Date: Tuesday, March 29th, 2022 04:18 am (UTC)That's just true of relationships in general, though. I don't understand the ones where one of them is just an asshole. lol
To be fair I like yuri relationships in general too. I just am not out there buying up yuri material as I am BL, probably because I'm not attracted to girls in general. =w=;;;